I play life safe. I want to do things right. I over analyze. I care about making other people happy. It took me traveling alone to Bali to understand what I was doing in my life wasn’t working. Being A.L.O.N.E. has brought me more fulfillment than I have ever experienced in my life. The fact that I am taking care of me, embracing the richness of life ALONE has been a paramount piece of my life thus far. Being A.L.O.N.E. in the way I experienced while traveling has allowed me to disassociate from my previous feelings of what I thought being alone stood for: sad, lonely, unsatisfied, disappointed, afraid, etc. I was seeing this word through a foggy lens and toxic space.
I associate “safety” with being secure. From security brings comfort. But when life gets too comfortable, it loses it spark. As most people are, I am a creature of habit. I have a routine established in my life that feels okay: wake up, meditate, eat, go to work, yoga, social time, and sleep, just to repeat the cycle the next day. I thought I was doing what I was supposed to do in living a happy life. I have a great family, friends, good job(s), dating. However, I was missing the biggest piece of the puzzle: to understand what being A.L.O.N.E. truly means. I needed to find a way inside my heart to embrace A.L.O.N.E: Allow Loving Oneself to Navigate Existence. This means getting the fuck out of the “safe zone” and operating in a way that allowed me to feel my truth, speak my truth and ultimately be my truth.
Being in the “safe zone” of life is like holding space in the “friend-zone” while trekking the path of seeking a relationship or partnership—it’s comfortable, easy, convenient, but yet there is something missing: an electrical charge of desire, clinging to fear of tapping into the unknown, or a mistrust of instinct to go deeper into allowing the soul to feel a connection.
The breakdown of being A.L.O.N.E. has served as a breakthrough in my life. Those of you reading thus far may have your own definition or association of what being alone means. My intention is to stir the vibration of the possibility of resonation to help gain clarity, insight, cultivate more self-love, and truth. If any of the following pulls at your heartstrings as it has mine, the process of creating necessary space has come to life:
Allow: Be vulnerable. Make space. Sit in the space where the difficult shit surfaces. Notice the tendency to be pulled towards a distraction of any kind that removes you from the present moment (food, sex, internet, etc.). Make time. Reflect. Hope. Be candid. Receive. Accept. Get vulnerable.
Loving: Be unconditional. Laugh…at yourself. Smile…more. Hug-and when you do, press your heart into the chest space that someone else’s heart occupies to feel their full heartbeat. Stay in an embrace until the breath is in unison…it’s a beautiful loving moment. Practice nonjudgment. Say kind words to yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror naked—and then smile (seriously, go do it!). Offer forgiveness—not everyone has the capacity to give you the kind of love you may need.
Oneself to: Notice the non-truths told to oneself. Get curious. Ask more questions. Reintroduce yourself to the young, innocent, playful child you once were. Unattach—to everything, it doesn’t define you. Be in nature. Breathe. Find yoga.
Navigate: Trust—self, instinct, intuition. Relinquish the need to control life’s palpable roadmap. Operate on a perception basis of feeling your energy and the energy emitted from others. Remove the obstacles that endless thoughts create to obstruct your path.
Existence: Breathe deeper, fuller, and more. Connect. Feel truth. Feel gratitude. Trust your source, Universe, higher Power, and you’ll never lose touch of being A.L.O.N.E.
In closing, it doesn’t matter where you find yourself in life. Being alone doesn’t have to mean residing to life in the safe-zone. Being A.L.O.N.E. is finding your truth; your inner magician for creating the abundant space of transformation and more love.